Sunday, 31 January 2016

Your Best Year Ever! Here Are 61 Ways to Shine in 2016!‏


Your Best Year Ever! Here Are 61 Ways to Shine


61 Ways to Shine!With this New Year and our awakened state, I put together a few ways I choose to remember to shine this 2016:
  1. Read your Bible daily (transform the mind heart, Spirit)
  2. Use the first 30 minutes of your day (minimum) , I AMing statements remembering who you are ....value-creating activities (versus checking email or surfing the Net)
  3. Believe in your vision and gifts when no one else believes in your vision and gifts.
  4. Exercise 20 -30 minutes daily. #goinganywayclub
  5. Make excellence your way of being (versus a once in a while event).
  6. Be on time (bonus points: be early).
  7. Be a celebrator of other’s talents.
  8. Stop watching low frequency TV. (Bonus points: sell your tv and invest the cash in learning and self-education).
  9. Finish what you start.
  10. Remember that your food intake affects your moods so eat like an healthy dread champion.
  11. Spend an hour a day without stimulation (no phone+no FaceBook+no noise).
  12. Say good bye to the energy vampires from your life and watch your performance climb.
  13. Write in a journal every morning. And record gratitude every night.
  14. Do work that scares you (if you’re not uncomfortable often, you’re not growing very much).
  15. Commit all your "work/play" to the Lord.
  16. Smile more (and tell your face).
  17. Do a collage filled with images of your ideal life. Look at it once a day for focus and inspiration.
  18. Plan your week on a schedule (clarity is the DNA of mastery).
  19. Speak life. (Average people love gossip; exceptional people adore ideas).
  20. Read “Conscious Language ”by Robert Stevens https://oi141.isrefer.com/go/MS/drsharnael/
  21. Develop you and your kids.
  22. Remember that victims are frightened by change. And leaders grow inspired by it.
  23. Choose daily supplements to stay in peak health. And of course use oils!! www.drsharnael.com
  24. Clean out any form of “victimspeak” in your vocabulary and start running the language of leadership and possibility.
  25. Do a nature walk at least once a week. It’ll renew you (you can’t inspire others if you’re depleted yourself).
  26. Take on projects no one else will take on. Set goals no one else will do.
  27. Do something that makes you feel uncomfortable at least once every 7 days.
  28. Apologize when you know you should apologize.
  29. Say “please” and “thank you” a lot.
  30. Remember that to double your income, triple your investment in learning, coaching and self-education. (Great and powerful resources in my bookstore www.swiftfire.org/store)
  31. Dream big but start now.
  32. Achieve 5 little goals each day . In 12 months this habit will produce 1850 little goals–which will amount to a massive transformation.
  33. Write handwritten thank you notes to your friends, co workers, members, teammates and family members.
  34. Be slow to criticize and fast to praise.
  35. Give your members 10X the value they pay for.
  36. Breathe.
  37. Keep your promises.
  38. Remember that ordinary people talk about their goals. Leaders get them done. With speed.
  39. Know that a problem only becomes a problem when you choose to see it as a problem. All bumps in the road are opportunities ALWAYS.
  40. Brain tattoo the fact that all work is a chance to change the world.
  41. Watch the "Star Wars: the Force Awakens" and other inspirational and funny movies.
  42. Remember that every person you meet has a story to tell, a lesson to teach and a dream to do.
  43. Risk being rejected. All of the great ones do.
  44. Spend more time in art galleries. Art inspires, stimulates creativity and pushes boundaries.
  45. Read a book a week, invest in a course every month and attend a workshop every quarter.
  46. Remember that you empower what you complain about.
  47. Remember you. Get to know yourself again. Today.
  48. Know your values. And then have the guts to live them–no matter what the crowd thinks and how the herd lives.
  49. Become the fittest person you know.
  50. Become the strongest person you know.
  51. Become the kindest person you know.
  52. Know your “Big 5″–the 5 goals you absolutely must achieve by December 31 to make this year your best yet.
  53. Know that potential unexpressed turns to pain.
  54. Build a strong family foundation while you grow your ideal career.
  55. Love selflessly. ( I mean really....love selflessly)
  56. Give your life to a project bigger than yourself.
  57. Be thankful for your talents.
  58. Choose healthy friends and value them.
  59. Stand for iconic. Go for legendary.
  60. Make history.
  61. This is YOUR time. Now is YOUR moment. Let’s do this! :)
I AM loved. I AM Love. I Love.

His, 

Dr. Sharnael


Friday, 29 January 2016

Read More - Get Into A Reading Rhythm


                                                    Source: http://ureadmorebooks.blogspot.co.uk/
Many people ask me how do I manage to get through so many books?, and my response is that I have a reading routine and rhythm. I'll share my recipe with you. Try this for one month and see how much progress you make. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. A sitcom generally airs for a half of an hour at a time with dramas and soap operas airing for an hour or more. Instead of watching the sitcoms or drama programs, turn the television off and use the time to read. That's right... READ. 
Let's say that you watch three sitcoms for a half of an hour each. Choose three books that you are currently reading or would like to read. Read each book for a half of an hour each (the same time you would have spent watching the sitcoms). Set a timer if you need to in order to keep you on track. At the end of the thirty minutes, change to the next book and begin reading it and at the end of that thirty minutes, move to the third book. If you do this once a day for a month, you will be absolutely amazed at the number of books you will complete in that time and ultimately in a year.
It's not that we don't have the time to read, it's more like we don't TAKE/MAKE the time to read. If television is not your thing and you spend an inordinate amount of time on the computer or on social networks, the same recipe will apply; just insert the word computer in the blank where I have TV above. In fact any other time consuming activity will work to fill in the blank. In other words, I am asking you to substitute reading for one of the other activities.
I cannot express the myriad benefits of you doing this here in this post. If you cannot do the ninety minutes, start off with thirty minutes and work your way up. Give up one sitcom to read a few chapters in a good book. Research says that anything done for thirty days becomes a habit (good or bad), so give it a try and watch how quickly you increase the number of books you have read in a week, month, and year's time. I dare you to challenge yourself. Happy Reading!
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Wednesday, 20 January 2016

4 Keys to Gaining Wisdom {Proverbs 3}

As Christians we long to gain wisdom. We spend much of our lives in pursuit of it and often wonder why we fail to gain it.

The truth is, we often complicate the simplicity of gaining wisdom.
God does not make us stumble our way through life trying to figure things out on our own. He gave us His Word to guide us through every step of our way.
In Proverbs 3, we find instructions for what we need to pursue in order to live long, wisdom filled lives.
We are given keys to gain wisdom.
Using these keys is our choice.

Key #1

Peace, mercy and truth are keys to living holy lives.  God desires that we write these things upon our hearts and in doing so we will find favor with Him and man. If we, as Christians live peacefully, offering mercy when others deserve otherwise and are honest in all things, can you imagine how much different the world would be?
These 3 things could change the world for Christ, if we would only pursue and cling tightly to them throughout our lives!
Proverbs 3:5,6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart...

Key #2

Trusting God with all of our heart, not trying to make it through life on our own and acknowledging Him throughout all we do –are keys to receiving His direction for every step that we take.
We cannot see beyond the step we are on, so we must learn to trust God and be obedient to what we already know, seek His direction for what we don’t and always remember that He wants the best for us.
We will make mistakes.
No matter how much wisdom we gain, we will stumble and fall.
Not one of us is perfect.

Key #3

God will correct us when we fail to follow His instructions, but each correction we receive from His hand is offered with love. He desires that we learn from Him, to pursue Him and His ways.
“My son, do not despise the Lord‘s discipline
    or be weary of his reproof,
for the Lord reproves him whom he loves,
    as a father the son in whom he delights.”~Proverbs 3:11,12
We must remember that through His correction, God is molding us to be conformed to His image.

Key #4

It is through our obedience that wisdom is gained.
The pursuit of wisdom is a journey that we should be excited to continue on throughout our lives. There is nothing that can be compared with wisdom, nothing in this world that we desire is anything like her.
The riches of wisdom are abundant and priceless!
Every obedient step we take brings us closer to the treasure of wisdom.
Proverbs 3:13-15 says:
Blessed is the one who finds wisdom,
    and the one who gets understanding,
for the gain from her is better than gain from silver
    and her profit better than gold.
She is more precious than jewels,
    and nothing you desire can compare with her.
Wisdom is attainable.
We can make wise decisions and choices throughout our lives, all that is required is our obedience to God’s instructions in His word.
It’s often the simplest steps we complicate that keep us from gaining that which we desire.
Take God at His word, trust His leading and begin the pursuit of wisdom through obedience today!

Tuesday, 19 January 2016

How I Do It All‏

I get asked a lot how I do it all.  How do I raise 4 kids, work outside the home full time, manage a home and family schedule, work on my marriage of 26 years, and still find time for Families with Purpose.  And my answer is always the same, I don’t do it all, only the important.  And for the important I have set up very specific systems to help manage it all.



My goal in life isn’t to do it all, but to do what’s important.  I focus my life on doing what excites me and what I feel I have been called to do.  Here is how you too can determine what's important and how to do a better job of fitting the important into your life.
 

Get Crystal Clear on Your Values, Priorities, and Vision and Be Unwilling to Compromise Them


Before you do anything else you need to get crystal clear on what’s important.

You might not necessarily know how to get there, but if you know where you are going and what is really important you will figure out how to get there.

That is why we have a family mission statement, created a family vision, and why I have my own personal mission and vision for my life.  That is why Joe and I have been very deliberate in choosing and teaching our core family values.

Clarity is what keeps you from floundering and flittering from one quick fix to another.   Clarity is what will keep you focused.
 

Keep It All in Perspective


I know it is hard when you are excited about your life, have lots you want to accomplish, but can’t seem to find time to work on your projects or accomplish any of your goals.  Babies who aren’t sleeping through the night or kids’ activities that take up all your spare time will make accomplishing your goals harder.  But the reality is that someday your kids will sleep through the night and someday your kids will need you less and you will have more time and energy to work on your projects.

So TRY to be present in the moments you have now, enjoy your season of life, and find little ways of continuing to work on your personal goals and ambitions.  Just small actions like reading books, taking short classes, or setting aside time every week to work on your own goals will help keep your own dreams alive.  Try not to lose sight of who you are or what you want to accomplish in life in the midst of the busyness of raising a family.
 

Let the Unimportant Go


I know this is easier said than done and it took me a long time to learn how to do it, but if something isn’t tied directly to your vision and values you either have to eliminate it from your life or find ways of simplifying it or delegating it.  For me I had to learn how to let go of the idea of having a spotlessly clean organized house.  Too much of my identity was tied up in how clean my house was even though nowhere in our family vision did we indicate that this was important to us.  It was something I thought a good mother and wife should do.  And though I truly appreciate a clean picked up house I didn’t necessarily enjoy doing it or sacrificing my time that I could be spending elsewhere.  So I simplified it by scaling back what I tried to do each week and delegated some of it to the kids.

And what really helped me learn how to let the unimportant go was learning how to get excited about my life and the things that were most important to me.  Things like being the mother and wife I wanted to be, being present and available when my family needed me and helping other families through the FWP community.

What in your life are you excited about?
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Saturday, 16 January 2016

Friday, 15 January 2016

HOW TO STOP DOING WHAT YOU KNOW AND START DOING WHAT YOU WANT

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You wouldn’t be the first to fall into this trap and I promise you, you won’t be the last. We do what we know, we do what we’re good at and we do what we ‘should’, but that doesn’t mean it’s what we want.
Maybe we ended up where we are because of some exam result that said we were good at maths or family who thought we needed a ‘proper’ profession, or maybe we couldn’t decide what to do, so just ended up doing what we’re doing now and along the way, became good at it.
More often than not, we are where we are because we put so many hurdles between ourselves and what we really want. We start by thinking that we’re not good enough, that we don’t have enough experience or that we could *never* make a living from it (this was a particular favourite of mine personally) … then as we progress with what we ‘should’ (ha, ha) be doing, we start to tell ourselves things like: I’ve got too many responsibilities, ‘ ‘now’ is not the right time (we soon learn there is never such a thing), I’m too old, I’ve invested far too much into this career to do something else now …
However, unless ‘sensible’ means locking yourself up in a prison of your own making, for your entire career, this is the least sensible thing you can do. You will end up looking back at your life thinking I “coulda, woulda, shoulda …” … This my friend, is the last thing I want for you or myself.
If you’re reading this and thinking, “sh*t, that’s me!”, it’s time to make a change.
Firstly, you don’t need to throw the baby out with the bath water, quite the opposite. Virtually every skill, experience and expertise you have gained to date can be brought to bear by doing what you actually *want*. Sure, they may look different, but I bet the skillset you have now is 90% transferable to what you want to do.
What’s been holding you back? You. Yep, that’s right. You.
So, get out of your own way …
What is it that you really want to do? I mean, what you *really* want to do. Write it down.
Now write down the top 3 reasons why you *think* you can’t do this. Remember, write this down don’t just think about it in your head!
Look at each of those reasons and write down 3 things that you could do to overcome this. Now put a big thick cross through each of those excuses; yep, excuses, not reasons.
Whatever you could do to overcome your hurdles, don’t just leave them sitting there, take action. Now. Pick one of the 3 ideas you’ve had and 1 of the ‘reasons’ you thought you couldn’t overcome and do something to action on it. Make a call? Send an email? Sign up for a course? Start planning to rent your spare room out? Whatever it is, do it now.
Next step, courage. Lots of it. Your instinct will try to keep you in your comfort zone doing exactly what you’re doing now. You’ve got to fight it and the best way to do that is to make a start. Anywhere. Anything.
How do I know? Because I spent years doing the work I knew, instead of doing the work that I wanted to do and I’ve only recently managed to make the shift. I know what it takes and I just wish I had done it sooner. Now is the best time to start.
I promise you won’t regret it.

Thursday, 14 January 2016

HIIT Home Workout for beginners


OK - here's something to kickstart your new year? Whoo Hoo!

5-Ingredient Healthy Brownie Bars

We all need some brain food snacking!
These nutritious raw brownie bars are so gooey and rich — they're the perfect snack for a sweet tooth! They're so easy to make and require only five main ingredients. (Salt is optional but recommended!)
If you make these, I would love to see your re-creations, please share them with me on social by using #beyondthebowlbyriri.

Brownie Bars

Ingredients
  • 1 cup walnuts
  • ½ cup almonds
  • 4 tablespoons raw cacao powder
  • 2 cups Medjool dates
  • 2 tablespoons pure maple syrup (or any other natural sweetener)
  • Pinch of sea salt (optional)
Preparation
1. Start by placing the walnuts and almonds in a food processor and pulse until finely chopped. Add the cacao powder, sea salt, pure maple syrup, and process. While it blends, start adding the Medjool dates one by one until it forms a dough consistency.
2. Place the dough in a small baking tray and press it down until it's flat. Place in the freezer for about an hour. Once set, cut into squares, enjoy, and keep in the fridge.

Wednesday, 13 January 2016

THE FIVE BIGGEST TIME WASTERS IN YOUR BUSINESS

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As business owners, we often talk about how busy we are, to the point where if someone tells us that we’re wasting time with our business it feels almost like a personal insult! But the hard truth is, there’s a huge difference between just being busy and being busy doing the right things. The even harder truth is that it can be hard to see that difference when you’re already in the middle of doing things. So let me clear a few things up — here are five of the biggest time wasters in your business:

Unlimited connection

I absolutely get that you’ve got to be connected to run a business — but what so often gets overlooked is the need to disconnect regularly, as in, as part of a daily practice. If your phone is constantly pinging with updates, you’re going to be constantly reacting and your plans are going to go out the window. Likewise, I know how easy it is to fall down a Facebook hole (believe me, it’s my Achilles heel!) but even if you tell yourself that you’re networking or doing it for business, you know deep down that’s not what’s going on.

Doing it all yourself

There’s a reason that businesses — and humans in general — work best when there’s a team involved. When you try to do it all yourself, you end up spending so much time on the things that aren’t your strengths that it really takes away from the great work you do when you play your strengths. I say this at every single event I attend: outsource, outsource, outsource.

Unfocused professional development

AKA, just one more course syndrome. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if you know more, then your business will do better. And while I’ll never advocate trying to go it alone or diving into something without a plan, there’s a time when you have to just go for it if you ever want to make progress. So go to courses, learn from the best, but do it strategically. If you don’t have a specific, measurable result that you want to get out of the course, ebook, or free download, then you should skip it, at least for now.

Poor boundary setting

This one often stems from really good intentions. For instance, you may try to be really generous with your time or your skills, which is a lovely thing, but if you let it get out of hand then it will suck the life out of your business. You know what I’m talking about: giving away long free consults, talking to potential clients for hours on end or through email after email, doing “just that one more little thing” that your client asks you for when you know there’s something else you could be doing … bottom line, getting your boundaries in place is key for your business. It also keeps you from getting resentful (which will absolutely happen if you let people roll over your boundaries over and over again) and will allow you the flexibility to practice generosity on your terms, not as a default.

Perfectionism

How many times have you sat on an email for an hour because you’re just not quite sure it’s right yet? How many times have you delayed a launch because you want to keep tweaking things just for one more week? Perfectionism is a huge time waster, and it’s really common in entrepreneurial businesses because most entrepreneurs are naturally high performing, give-the-best type of people, which can make it hard to ship. So just remember, done is better than perfect — and you can always go back later to change something or make it better IF you get feedback that merits it.

So how about it — do you see yourself in any of these? And what are you going to do today to change that?

Tuesday, 12 January 2016

Sleep Deprivation Is Killing You and Your Career

The next time you tell yourself that you’ll sleep when you’re dead, realize that you’re making a decision that can make that day come much sooner. In this article, originally posted on LinkedIn Pulse, I explain why pushing late into the night is a health and productivity killer.
According to the Division of Sleep Medicine at the Harvard Medical School, the short-term productivity gains from skipping sleep to work are quickly washed away by the detrimental effects of sleep deprivation on your mood, ability to focus and access to higher-level brain functions for days to come. The negative effects of sleep deprivation are so great that people who are drunk outperform those lacking sleep.
                                Source:http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/

Why You Need Adequate Sleep to Perform

We've always known that sleep is good for your brain, but new research from the University of Rochester provides the first direct evidence for why your brain cells need you to sleep (and sleep the right way—more on that later). The study found that when you sleep, your brain removes toxic proteins from its neurons that are by-products of neural activity when you're awake. Unfortunately, your brain can remove them adequately only while you're asleep. So when you don't get enough sleep, the toxic proteins remain in your brain cells, wreaking havoc by impairing your ability to think—something no amount of caffeine can fix.
Skipping sleep impairs your brain function across the board. It slows your ability to process information and problem solve, kills your creativity, and catapults your stress levels and emotional reactivity.

What Sleep Deprivation Does to Your Health

Sleep deprivation is linked to a variety of serious health problems, including heart attack, stroke, type 2 diabetes and obesity. It stresses you out because your body overproduces the stress hormone cortisol when it's sleep deprived. While excess cortisol has a host of negative health effects that come from the havoc it wreaks on your immune system, it also makes you look older, because cortisol breaks down skin collagen, the protein that keeps skin smooth and elastic. In men specifically, not sleeping enough reduces testosterone levels and lowers sperm count.
Too many studies to list have shown that people who get enough sleep live longer, healthier lives, but I understand that sometimes this isn't motivation enough. So consider this—not sleeping enough makes you fat. Sleep deprivation compromises your body's ability to metabolize carbohydrates and control food intake. When you sleep less, you eat more and have more difficulty burning the calories you consume. Sleep deprivation makes you hungrier by increasing the appetite-stimulating hormone ghrelin and makes it harder for you to get full by reducing levels of the satiety-inducing hormone leptin. People who sleep less than six hours a night are 30 percent more likely to become obese than those who sleep seven to nine hours a night.
Side Effects From Missing Sleep

How Much Sleep Is Enough?

Most people need seven to nine hours of sleep a night to feel sufficiently rested. Few people are at their best with less than seven hours, and few require more than nine without an underlying health condition. And that’s a major problem, since more than half of Americans get less than the necessary seven hours of sleep each night, according to the National Sleep Foundation.
For go-getters, it's even worse.
A recent survey of Inc. 500 CEOs found that half of them are sleeping less than six hours a night. And the problem doesn't stop at the top. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, a third of U.S. workers get less than six hours of sleep each night, and sleep deprivation costs U.S. businesses more than $63 billion annually in lost productivity.

Doing Something About It

Beyond the obvious sleep benefits of thinking clearly and staying healthy, the ability to manage your emotions and remain calm under pressure has a direct link to your performance. TalentSmart has conducted research with more than a million people, and we’ve found that 90 percent of top performers are high in emotional intelligence (EQ). These individuals are skilled at understanding and using emotions to their benefit, and good sleep hygiene is one of the greatest tools at their disposal.
High-EQ individuals know it's not just how much you sleep that matters, but also how you sleep. When life gets in the way of getting the amount of sleep you need, it's absolutely essential that you increase the quality of your sleep through good sleep hygiene. There are many hidden killers of quality sleep. The 10 strategies that follow will help you identify these killers and clean up your sleep hygiene. Follow them, and you'll reap the performance and health benefits that come with getting the right quantity and quality of sleep.
1. Stay away from sleeping pills.
When I say sleeping pills, I mean anything you take that sedates you so that you can sleep. Whether it's alcohol, Nyquil, Benadryl, Valium, Ambien, or what have you, these substances greatly disrupt your brain's natural sleep process. Have you ever noticed that sedatives can give you some really strange dreams? As you sleep and your brain removes harmful toxins, it cycles through an elaborate series of stages, at times shuffling through the day’s memories and storing or discarding them (which causes dreams). Sedation interferes with these cycles, altering the brain's natural process.
Anything that interferes with the brain's natural sleep process has dire consequences for the quality of your sleep. Many of the strategies that follow eliminate factors that disrupt this recovery process. If getting off sleeping pills proves difficult, make certain you try some of the other strategies (such as cutting down on caffeine) that will make it easier for you to fall asleep naturally and reduce your dependence upon sedatives.
2. Stop drinking caffeine (at least after lunch).
You can sleep more and vastly improve the quality of the sleep you get by reducing your caffeine intake. Caffeine is a powerful stimulant that interferes with sleep by increasing adrenaline production and blocking sleep-inducing chemicals in the brain. Caffeine has a six-hour half-life, which means it takes a full 24 hours to work its way out of your system. Have a cup of joe at 8 a.m., and you’ll still have 25 percent of the caffeine in your body at 8 p.m. Anything you drink after noon will still be near 50 percent strength at bedtime. Any caffeine in your bloodstream—the negative effects increasing with the dose—makes it harder to fall and stay asleep.
When you do finally fall asleep, the worst is yet to come. Caffeine disrupts the quality of your sleep by reducing rapid eye movement (REM) sleep, the deep sleep when your body recuperates most. When caffeine disrupts your sleep, you wake up the next day with a cognitive and emotional handicap. You’ll be naturally inclined to grab a cup of coffee or an energy drink to try to make yourself feel more alert, which very quickly creates a vicious cycle.
3. Avoid blue light at night.
This is a big one—most people don't even realize it impacts their sleep. Short-wavelength blue light plays an important role in your mood, energy level and sleep quality. In the morning, sunlight contains high concentrations of this "blue" light. When your eyes are exposed to it directly (not through a window or while wearing sunglasses), the blue light halts production of the sleep-inducing hormone melatonin and makes you feel more alert. This is great, and exposure to a.m. sunlight can improve your mood and energy levels. If the sun isn't an option for you, try a blue light device.
In the afternoon, the sun's rays lose their blue light, which allows your body to produce melatonin and start making you sleepy. By the evening, your brain does not expect any blue light exposure and is very sensitive to it. The problem this creates for sleep is that most of our favorite evening devices—laptops, tablets, TVs and mobile phones—emit short-wavelength blue light. And in the case of your laptop, tablet and phone, they do so brightly and right in your face. This exposure impairs melatonin production and interferes with your ability to fall asleep as well as with the quality of your sleep once you do nod off. Remember, the sleep cycle is a daylong process for your brain. When you confuse your brain by exposing it in the evening to what it thinks is a.m. sunlight, this derails the entire process with effects that linger long after you power down. The best thing you can do is avoid these devices after dinner (TV is OK for most people as long as they sit far enough away from the set). If you must use one of these devices in the evening, you can limit your exposure with a filter or protective eye wear.
4. Wake up at the same time every day.
Consistency is key to a good night's sleep, especially when it comes to waking up. Waking up at the same time every day improves your mood and sleep quality by regulating your circadian rhythm. When you have a consistent wake-up time, your brain acclimates to this and moves through the sleep cycle in preparation for you to feel rested and alert at your wake-up time. Roughly an hour before you wake, hormone levels increase gradually (along with your body temperature and blood pressure), causing you to become more alert. This is why you'll often find yourself waking up right before your alarm goes off.
When you don't wake up at the same time every day, your brain doesn't know when to complete the sleep process and when it should prepare you to be awake. Long ago, sunlight ensured a consistent wake-up time. These days, an alarm is the only way most people can pull this off, and doing this successfully requires resisting the temptation to sleep in when you're feeling tired because you know you'll actually feel better by keeping your wake-up time intact.
5. No binge sleeping (in) on the weekend.
Sleeping in on the weekend is a counterproductive way to catch up on your sleep. It messes with your circadian rhythm by giving you an inconsistent wake-up time. When you wake up at the same time during the work week but sleep past this time on the weekend, you end up feeling groggy and tired because your brain hasn't prepared your body to be awake. This isn't a big deal on your day off, but it makes you less productive on Monday because it throws your cycle off and makes it hard to get going again on your regular schedule.
6. Learn how much sleep you really need.
The amount of sleep you need is something that you can't control, and scientists are beginning to discover the genes that dictate it. The problem is, most people sleep much less than they really need and are under-performing because they think they're getting enough. Some discover this the hard way. Ariana Huffington was one of those frantic types who underslept and overworked, until she collapsed unexpectedly from exhaustion one afternoon. She credits her success and well-being since then to the changes she's made to her sleep habits. "I began getting 30 minutes more sleep a night, until gradually I got to seven to eight hours. The result has been transformational," Huffington says, adding that, "all the science now demonstrates unequivocally that when we get enough sleep, everything is better: our health; our mental capacity and clarity; our joy at life; and our ability to live life without reacting to every bad thing that happens."
Huffington isn't the only one. Jeff Bezos, Warren Buffet, and Sheryl Sandberg have all touted the virtues of getting enough sleep. Even Bill Gates, an infamous night owl, has affirmed the benefits of figuring out how much sleep you really need: “I like to get seven hours of sleep a night because that’s what I need to stay sharp and creative and upbeat.” It's time to bite the bullet and start going to bed earlier until you find the magic number that enables you to perform at your best.
7. Stop working.
When you work in the evening, it puts you into a stimulated, alert state when you should be winding down and relaxing in preparation for sleep. Recent surveys show that roughly 60 percent of people monitor their smartphones for work emails until they go to sleep. Staying off blue light-emitting devices (discussed above) after a certain time each evening is also a great way to avoid working so you can relax and prepare for sleep, but any type of work before bed should be avoided if you want quality sleep.
8. Eliminate interruptions.
Unfortunately for those with small children, the quality of your sleep does suffer when it is interrupted. The key here is to eliminate all the interruptions that are under your control. If you have loud neighbors, wear earplugs to bed. If your mother likes to call at all hours of the night, make certain you silence your ringer before you go to bed. If you had to wake up extra early in the morning, make sure your alarm clock is back on its regular time when you go to bed. Don't drink too much water in the evening to avoid a bathroom trip in the middle of the night. If your partner snores…. Well, you get the idea. If you think hard enough, there are lots of little things you can do to eliminate unnecessary interruptions to your sleep.
9. Learn to meditate.
Many people who learn to meditate report that it improves the quality of their sleep and that they can get the rest they need even if they aren't able to significantly increase the number of hours they sleep. At the Stanford Medical Center, insomniacs participated in a six-week mindfulness meditation and cognitive-behavioral therapy course. At the end of the study, participants' average time to fall asleep was cut in half (from 40 to 20 minutes), and 60 percent of subjects no longer qualified as insomniacs. The subjects retained these gains upon follow-up a full year later. A similar study at the University of Massachusetts Medical School found that 91 percent of participants either reduced the amount of medication they needed to sleep or stopped taking medication entirely after a mindfulness and sleep therapy course. Give mindfulness a try. At minimum, you'll fall asleep faster, as it will teach you how to relax and quiet your mind once you hit the pillow.
10. When all else fails, take naps.
One of the biggest peaks in melatonin production happens during the 1 to 3 p.m. time frame, which explains why most people feel sleepy in the afternoon. Companies like Google and Zappos are capitalizing on this need by giving employees the opportunity to take short afternoon naps. If you aren't getting enough sleep at night, you're likely going to feel an overwhelming desire to sleep in the afternoon. When this happens, you're better off taking a short nap (even as short as 15 minutes) than resorting to caffeine to keep you awake. A short nap will give you the rest you need to get through the rest of the afternoon, and you'll sleep much better in the evening than if you drink caffeine or take a long afternoon nap.
Bringing It All Together
I know many of you reading this piece are thinking something along the lines of "but I know a guy (or gal) who is always up at all hours of the night working or socializing, and he's the number one performer at our branch." My answer for you is simple: This guy is underperforming. We all have innate abilities that we must maximize to reach our full potential. My job is to help people do that—to help the good become great by removing unseen performance barriers. Being number one in your branch is an accomplishment, but I guarantee that this guy has his sights set on bigger things that he isn't achieving because sleep deprivation has him performing at a fraction of his full potential. You should send him this article. It just might shake something loose.
After all, the only thing worth catching up on at night is your sleep.
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Monday, 11 January 2016

The Six Attributes of Courage

Courage is something that everybody wants — an attribute of good character that makes us worthy of respect. From the Bible to fairy tales; ancient myths to Hollywood movies,our culture is rich with exemplary tales of bravery and self-sacrifice for the greater good. From the cowardly lion in The Wizard of Oz who finds the courage to face the witch, to David battling Goliath in the Bible, to Star Wars and Harry Potter, children are raised on a diet of heroic and inspirational tales.
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Yet courage is not just physical bravery. History books tell colorful tales of social activists, such as Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela, who chose to speak out against injustice at great personal risk. Entrepreneurs such as Steve Jobs and Walt Disney, who took financial risks to follow their dreams and innovate are like modern-day knights, exemplifying the rewards and public accolades that courage can bring. There are different types of courage, ranging from physical  strength and endurance to mental stamina andinnovation. The below quotes demonstrate six different ways in which we define courage.Which are most relevant to you? In the last section, i present an exercise to help you define and harness your own courage.

(1)  Feeling Fear Yet Choosing to Act

“Bran thought about it. 'Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?' 'That is the only time a man can be brave,' his father told him.” ― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones
Fear and courage are brothers. — Proverb
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear — Nelson Mandela
There is no living thing that is not afraid when it faces danger. The true courage is in facing danger when you are afraid. — L.Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz
Being terrified but going ahead and doing what must be done—that's courage. The one who feels no fear is a fool, and the one who lets fear rule him is a coward. ― Piers Anthony
Courage is about doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared. Have the courage to act instead of react." — Oliver Wendell Holmes

(2) Following Your Heart 

“Passion is what drives us crazy, what makes us do extraordinary things, to discover, to challenge ourselves. Passion is and should always be the heart of courage.” ― Midori Komatsu
And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” — Steve Jobs, Stanford commencement speech, June 2005
To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.
 — Soren Kierkegaard
“It takes courage ... to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.” ― Marianne Williamson, "Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of 'A Course in Miracles'"

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3) Persevering in the Face of Adversity
When we are afraid we ought not to occupy ourselves with endeavoring to prove that there is no danger, but in strengthening ourselves to go on in spite of the danger. — Mark Rutherford
A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer. — Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 1882)
Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them — Orison Swett Marden (1850-1924)
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the   day that says I'll try again tomorrow. — Mary Anne Radmacher
“Go back?" he thought. "No good at all! Go sideways? Impossible! Go forward? Only thing to do! On we go!" So up he got, and trotted along with his little sword held in front of him and one hand feeling the wall, and his heart all of a patter and a pitter.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit
“It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog.” — Mark Twain

(4) Standing Up For What Is Right

Sometimes standing against evil is more important than defeating it. The greatest heroes stand because it is right to do so, not because they believe they will walk away with their lives. Such selfless courage is a victory in itself ― N.D. Wilson, Dandelion Fire
Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes — Maggie Kuhn, Social Activist
From caring comes courage. — Lao Tzu
Anger is the prelude to courage. ― Eric Hoffer

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(5) Expanding Your Horizons; Letting Go of the Familiar
Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore. — Lord Chesterfield
“This world demands the qualities of youth; not a time of life but a state of mind, a temper of the will, a quality of the imagination, a predominance of courage over timidity, of the appetitefor adventure over the life of ease.” ― Robert F. Kennedy
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. — Anais Nin

(6) Facing Suffering  With Dignity or Faith...

 “There is no need to be ashamed of tears, for tears bear witness that a man has the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.” — Frank
The ideal man bears the accidents of life with dignity and grace, making the best of circumstances. — Aristotle
Until the day of his death, no man can be sure of his courage. — Jean Anoulh
A man of courage is also full of faith. — Marcus Tullius Cicero

Courage-Building Exercise

For this exercise, you will need a notebook and pen, as well as a quiet, uninterrupted space in which you can reflect.  
Beginning with the first definition of courage, "Feeling Afraid Yet Choosing to Act," answer the following questions:
Think of a situation as an adult when you felt afraid, yet chose to face your fear?
(a) What did you observe, think, and feel at the time? (e.g., "I saw the rollercoaster and felt butterflies in my stomach").
(b) What did you or the people around you say, think, and do to help you face your fear? (e.g., "I told myself that if little kids could go on it, so could I").
(c) At what point did your fear start to go down? How did you feel afterwards?
(d) Now think back on a situation in childhood in which you faced your fear. How was it the same or different than the first situation?
(e) Finally, think of a situation you are currently facing that creates fear or anxiety. What are you most afraid of?  (e.g., being fired if I ask my boss for a raise).
(f) Now, is there a way to apply the same skills you used in the two earlier situations to be more  courageous this situation. Remind yourself that you have these skills and have used them successfully in the past. What mental or environmental barriers stand in the way of using these skills? How can you cope with or get rid of these barriers?
Repeat this exercise over the course of a week, using each definition of courage above. On Day 7, come up with your own definition of courage that is most meaningful to you and repeat the whole exercise using this definition.