Sunday, 29 November 2015

4. Earl Nightingale - The Miracle of Your Mind


Mighty minds are worth listening to...

The Birth of Creative Work

A few weeks ago I started taking a weekly art class. It's been great for me to connect to my creativity in a structured way. I have learned so much about my creative process and I've only been in the class for 3 weeks! I can't wait to see what else I learn over the next couple of months.
                                          Source: http://www.entrepreneur.com/
This week in class the focus was portraits. The instructor had us put a big blob of red paint in the middle of our paper, which was used to create the shape of the model's head. She told us to use black and white paint to convey where light and shadow were hitting the model. We had 15 minutes to complete the painting. The idea of this exercise was to work quickly and not get bogged down by thinking about each brushstroke.
We did three of these 15-minute paintings over the course of the class. Each time, mid-way through, I was convinced I was doing a terrible job and I should start over. (There's that sneaky inner critic again!) However, instead of crumpling up my paper, I breathed through the discomfort and finished each painting. And guess what?! A face emerged on the canvas. I started each painting with a big blob of paint in the middle of the paper and over the course of 15 minutes somehow I created a portrait. In a way, it was magical.
It got me thinking. When I'm in the middle of a rehearsal process I often go through a similar experience. I start off the project excited about the possibilities and happy about the chance to create something new, but in the middle of the process, I sometimes feel lost. Everything feels muddy and uncertain. It's a very uncomfortable time, often filled with self-doubt. It can feel as if you are eight months pregnant with your creative work, awkwardly lumbering about, anxiously waiting to give birth.
What I've come to realize is that the middle of the creative process is very much a liminal zone. Liminal is defined by Merriam-Webster as "of, relating to, or being in an intermediate state, phase, or condition." Liminal zones are transitional times in the human experience when we are neither here nor there. Examples of common liminal zones are: graduating, moving, starting a new job, getting married, being pregnant. These are often challenging times in our lives, filled with uncertainty and discomfort.
My thought for you today is to realize that the middle part of any creative process is a liminal zone. It's okay that in the midst of creation we are uncomfortable-- you could even say that it is natural or inevitable. You will get through it. Trust that you won't stay there forever. That "in-between place" is simply a part of the creative process. It is a necessary part of your art being "born." And while that is sometimes an uncomfortable, and even painful process, it is also necessary. We can't NOT create in order to avoid the discomfort. The consequences of denying ourselves artistic expression are simply too high.
http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Birth-of-Creative-Work&id=9218750

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9218750

Saturday, 28 November 2015

GET MOTIVATED Darren Hardy Explains What You Think About Comes About


What motivates you? Listen to the legends.

Don't Forget That Children Grieve Also

November is Children's Grief Awareness Month. Many have never heard of such and have no idea of the impact that loss has on children. During my many years in the cemetery business, I would often ask, "How are the children doing?" and the response was usually something along the lines of, "Oh, they are doing okay, better than we are doing." That might be what we think, but not necessarily true.
                                           Source:https://news.liv.ac.uk
Children are very intuitive and connected to our emotions. When they see the sadness, they will often suppress their own sadness to not make us feel worse. Unfortunately, holding their emotions of grief and loss inside may not manifest until later in life, their teen years, or even adulthood. Many adults suffer from existential grief and only receive support when they are able to talk about what happened or did not happen during the loss of a loved one.
As adults we often feel we are shielding the children from such painful emotions and events by not sharing the reality with them, or even worse, by giving details that are untrue. When we give false details of a loss to a child, and they obtain the truth later in life, it creates negative or even harmful reactions. Grief in itself is a difficult subject to talk about, let alone talk about it to a child. Many questions arise. Should I tell them? Should they go to the funeral? What should I tell them or what part should I not tell them? At what age should they know what really happened? Will they understand? There is no rule book or standard set to answer these questions, but when a death has occurred that directly or indirectly affects your child, please don't avoid the conversation.
Just the other day while having lunch with my five year old granddaughter, she started to tear. When I asked what was wrong, she replied, "I miss great-grandma." She was only 3 ½ years of age when my mother died, but as we chatted she recalled so many memories. Don't fall into the belief that our children can be left out of the grieving process because we "think" they are okay, or even too young to understand. Just as adults should get support to do the grief work, our children need support too. These are the ones who most often suffer in silence. There are support groups, organizations, online resources, and grief professionals that can help you.
The National Alliance for Grieving Children is an excellent resource to find information on children's grief and National Children's Grief Awareness Month. Let's not forget our beloved children.
As a bereavement care consultant with over 15 years experience in the death care industry, Dora Carpenter offers personal and professional development training in life transitions, grief, and fear. She is an author, speaker, coach, trainer, and mentor and has been recognized by the National Association of Distinguished Professionals as a professional in her field. More about Dora Carpenter at http://www.doracarpenter.com/the-grief-corner.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9226805

Friday, 27 November 2015

Jim Rohn - Personal Development - Living An Exceptional Life


Jim Rohn was Tony Robbins mentor - so worth a listen...

3 Ways to Invite Peace Into Your Life This Holiday Season

Uh-oh, it's almost holiday time again! For some, just the thought makes them shudder like a January snowstorm. It's the stress and expectation and worry if everything isn't just so.
This year, I invite you to bring Peace into your holiday season! And I have three ideas on how to accomplish this.
Idea one is to simply announce, before the season gets into full swing, that you would like to have everyone consider bringing peace into the holiday! Peace can be so many things... it can be old traditions and new ones... it can be asking people to say nice things to each other... it can be giving a bit more than the year before.
                                          Source: http://anna-bownesspark.ca/
Idea two is about remembering good things in the holidays - not just today but from yesterday and desiring to take good things with you into tomorrow and beyond! People just try to get through the holidays... dreading them, wishing they'd hurry up and be done. But then, in a year or ten or more, what can you look back upon? What memories can you share with the loved ones of tomorrow?
Idea three is about bringing old traditions forward and merging them with new ones. I personally love thinking about our old family traditions. When I do, I get the opportunity to reunite with my lost family members like my mother, father, and grandparents. It also gives me a chance to share memories with my nieces and nephews.
One of the things we had always loved to do growing up was cook together. Mama had loved cooking, especially at holiday time. She had cooked for the family as well as the church. And when I have the chance to cook with my niece, it's a beautiful reminder of the past as well as a new memory for the future.
Another memory I had of the past was sitting at the Thanksgiving table. One year we had just started going around the table and have everyone say something they were grateful for. It had been new that year and an old tradition ever since!
Some of our old traditions had faded or changed. When Mama had been alive, she'd put together baskets to hand out to the less fortunate in the church. It had been a wonderful feeling; giving to others. Though, when Mama had gotten sick, the tradition had fallen away. We compensated by giving monetary donations to the church instead.
Probably the greatest memories of past and present are the times when our family members join together - sharing food, song, laughter and memories. There truly is no greater peace for the holidays than giving, sharing, and family.
Frances is an author, vocalist, and speaker. She focuses on Latino traditions, music, and faith. She is inspired by her mother, Flora, and her family of seven brothers and sisters. She has inspired people through sharing her mother's legacy and encourages others to share their family's legacies. Visit her website to sign up for inspirational messages, monthly newsletter, and updates at http://www.floraslegacy.net.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9229395

Thursday, 26 November 2015

Are You Delaying Success By Delaying Your Start-Up?


Dani's been there, done that - are you on 'pause' with your business?

4 Common Reasons Why We Keep Things & How To Get Past Them

There are a lot of reasons why we keep things. Some of them make sense, others, not so much. However, the reason why someone is keeping something may make perfect sense to them. I hear these reasons a lot when I'm working with clients. Some of us have no issues with discarding things. They realize the value of having open and clear spaces and they don't feel tied to their stuff. Others may realize that they need to do some purging, yet they hold onto things all the same. What they don't realize is that they will feel so much lighter and at peace, when they remove excess things that are weighing them down.
                                          Source: http://cm3associates.co.uk/
Below are 4 common reasons that I hear a lot from clients on why they keep things, and how to get past them to keep your stuff to a minimum.
I'm keeping these clothes until l lose weight: This is the most common reason I hear from women about clothes. OK, it's possible that you may lose that weight so you can once again fit into those clothes, but when will that be? When you do lose the weight, those outfits that you once loved, may be out of style or not look good on you anymore. Right now though, they are taking up space that you could use for the clothes you wear now. If your closet is stuffed with clothes, you may not even know what you have to wear that fits. We typically wear 20% of our clothes 80% of the time. That may be in part because we can't actually see everything we have. If you purge the clothes that don't fit, you will be able to see what you have and save time getting ready in the morning.
I may need it someday: When I hear this, it prompts me to ask them, 'when was the last time you used this?' If they can't remember, then I ask them to give me a scenario when they may use it in the future. Chances are, they haven't used it for quite awhile, and if they can think of a scenario where they may use it, that opportunity may never come to fruition. And then I ask, 'what's the worst thing that will happen if you get rid of it?' They usually say they will need to buy another one. OK so is that really so bad?
This was a gift and if I get rid of it, it will hurt someone's feelings: If you are given a gift, you are not obligated to keep it. I know that sounds a little mean, but it's not. You don't want to keep things in your space that you don't love, use or want. Pass it on to someone who will love it, use it and want it. I'm sure the gift giver would want their gift to go to someone who really wants it anyway.
It was my _______ (relative) that passed away: This reason is likely sentimental and could have a very strong attachment. We have all gone through this and it's not easy. If you have the space to store all of your loved ones things, great, if not, they have to go. Determine which of their things that you want to keep, will fit comfortably in your spaces. For the others, you can always take pictures of these items and put them in an album with your loved ones name on it, or put on your computer to save space. Then sell or donate the actual items.
Sally E Morgan is the owner of SOS: Simple Organized Solutions LLC. For more information on how SOS can eliminate stress and create peace of mind in your life, go to, http://www.sossimpleorganizedsolutions.com.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9238511

Wednesday, 25 November 2015

Have You Thought About Your Life Goals?

What are your life goals? I'm not talking about just the day-to-day stuff. I'm talking about the goals that you envision for yourself in the next month, year or 5 years. Do you think if you had a specific goal broken down into daily tasks to reach that goal that you would be successful in reaching it?
                                          Source:http://www.thegirlwholovedtowrite.com/
Goal setting is not just having a vision for the future, it takes a solid plan and laser focus! Here are four steps to achieving your life goals:
1. Write down your goal. Take a blank piece of paper and at the top, write down what it is that you want to achieve. Anything is harder to forget or ignore if its written down.
2. Set specific dates for achieving each goal. We're not talking those vague "oh, next month", or "maybe in March". Write down the date that you will achieve that goal i.e. "I will achieve this goal on March 15, 2016.
3. Chunk down your goals in life into a series of smaller steps. Write down how your going to do it and go for it! For example if your goal is to increase your income by $40,000 a month within the next year, write down the steps, by month, by week and then by day, how you are going to reach that goal. Taken in smaller steps that huge, life changing goal is much easier to manage. In the beginning these goals might include reading books or watching video's that will help you gather information to achieve your ultimate goal.
4. Review your written goals regularly and measure your progress. Keep those goals fresh in your mind everyday! Make sure that they fit in with they vision you have for your life. I like to review my goals every morning before I do anything else just to remind myself why I am doing this and how close I am to reaching my goal. You really have to have tunnel vision to make it happen!
If you take a minute before you leave for the day to write down your goals for the next day. Be consistent with it and you will find that you are much more productive when you have a clear outline of what needs to be accomplished. You might even think about setting yourself up some daily habits, yes... write them down! Check your lists every day until those things you want to become habits actually are!
Smart Goals
A simple way to make your goals more significant and powerful to you is to use the SMART mnemonic.
S = Specific (significant)
M = Measurable (meaningful)
A = Attainable (action oriented)
R = Relevant (rewarding)
T = Trackable (time-bound)
Remember to set your goals as performance based goals instead of outcome based goals. You'll need to have goals that you have as much control of as possible or it could be a serious let down when the universe decides to throw you a curve ball and you are unable to fulfill your goals for reasons beyond your control.
So, decide what it is you want. Separate what's important from what may distract you or not be relevant to your purpose. Keep yourself motivated towards those goals and build self confidence on the way!
Entrepreneur, ex-corporate grunt and gratefully free from the grind! If you are interested in finding out how you can free yourself and make money from home just click here for more information: http://deborahawhite.com/optin
http://ezinearticles.com/?Have-You-Thought-About-Your-Life-Goals?&id=9233801

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9233801

Sunday, 22 November 2015

How To Overcome Fear - Dani Johnson


We all need an anti-fear strategy - what is yours?

Fear Says Stop! Faith Says GO!

As I was walking this morning I decided to do a mental exercise. I closed my eyes as I walked a familiar path. While my sense awareness told me that there was nothing around me, after a small period of time, an immobilizing fear overtook me and demanded that I stop walking. The demand was so great I had to really fight it, not to stop. It was like my body was under its grip and was intent on stopping.
Source http://www.woodsnap.com/

Fear was powerful! Fear of walking into something. Fear of the unknown, even though the path was familiar. Fear of not being able to see my surroundings. But something else was there too. Faith! Faith said listen to your gut. Listen to your heart. It is well. Keep walking. You know how this turns out. Turns out faith was right. I continued to walk and I was surrounded by nothing but peace.
Lesson learned: Fear immobilizes! Fear says stop. Faith says keep walking. Faith is an unyielding energy. Faith is always right!
Listen to your heart. Don't allow fear to stop your growth. Don't allow fear to dominate your faith. Don't allow fear to control you. Fear is a negative but powerful energy. It will cause you to miss out on every good thing in life. While it feels real. It is truly false evidence appearing real (FEAR).
Faith is real! Faith brought everything into this world that is. If not for faith nothing would exist that exist. What if everyone had given in to fear? What if Henry Ford had given up? What if Bill Gates decided it was impossible! What if Mary Bethune Cookman had given into the inferior thoughts? What if Martin Luther King Jr. had been afraid of death? What If Jesus Christ had decided the pain of the cross was too much. If fear had prevailed, then the world as we know it would not be.
Faith is a positive force that will always stand the test of time. Trust your faith.
The following are three ways to overcome fear.
Visualize your success
See yourself at the finish line. While I was working on both my masters and doctorate I would often sit for a moment and visualize myself walking across the stage. I saw the color of my graduating robe for my doctorate. I saw the three stripes on my robe sleeves and I saw myself receiving my diploma. Whenever I starting to hear the self-doubt voice in my head I would visualize that moment. Ironically, when it happened it was just as I had visualized it.
Speak positive affirmations into your life
Our fear and self-doubt constantly reminds that we are not good enough. There is a constant chatter in our head that says you can't. It is extremely important that you speak positive things into your life to counteract this paralyzing fear. Write down several positive affirmations that speak directly to your situation. Repeat those affirmation every day, several times a day.
One of my favorites is I am strong, powerful, healthy, loving and harmonious!
Surround yourself with positive people
To achieve your goals sometime you have to change your surroundings. Sometimes your friends can be your downfall. Sometimes you have to change your group of friends. If you struggle with detaching yourself from your friends you don't have to go cold turkey. Start slow by finding other support groups or joining networks in your local area that supports your growth. Invite your friends along. If they choose to go for the ride. Great! If they don't, choose YOU. Choose yourself a few times a week. Set aside the time to network and join positive groups for you. You will find fear leaving as you get around people that are making progress and achieving their goals. Pretty soon success won't seem as unreachable as you start checking off your goals one by one.
Tonya White Johnson, DBA is an author, business owner, career coach and inspirational speaker. For more inspirational articles, poetry, and resources reach out to Dr.Tonya White Johnson at http://www.tonyawhitejohnson.com
Source:http://ezinearticles.com/?Fear-Says-Stop!-Faith-Says-GO!&id=9229173

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9229173

Saturday, 21 November 2015

How to Overcome Fear


Brendon's got it sussed - how can you help yourself today?

The Lifestyle

If I want to describe what the lifestyle is, I do not have a dictionary, but I have a thesaurus in my word processor, so that will have to suffice. Also, this is how I perceive a lifestyle according to my own lifestyle, and I will try to be as objective about it as possible. I think that a lifestyle is what you are, what makes you into the person you are. The words available in my thesaurus is; existence, routine, life, regime, way of life, standard of living, daily life and means.
                                          Source: http://www.entrepreneur.com/
If I had to choose one of those words, I would choose way of life and standard of living. Because your way of life describes your lifestyle perfectly. So, it describes the way you live, or how you live you live your life. Your standard of living affects how you perceive the people around you. And because of your standard of living, you will judge people accordingly. It also affects your perception of life in general and your way of thinking. Your standard of living also affects your perception of right and wrong.
So, what you consider as right could be considered wrong by other people. So, if you have a lifestyle where you have a job working in the corporate system, and you go to work from seven to five every day to support your family, then for you, this is the right thing to do. For you, it is right to own a luxury house and a fancy car, to have four children at school and a wife also working to support your finances, then for you, which is the right thing to do. 
If other people don't live according to your perceptions of what is right and wrong, then for you, it is wrong. Even though other people feel differently, and they live differently to your standard of living, and their lifestyle agrees with them that it is right for them to live like that, they think that your way of living is wrong. But neither is right nor wrong, it's all about each person's perception.
So, each person has its own lifestyle, or standard of living, and you live according to how you perceive your life. There are also so many influences on your lifestyle, besides how you already perceive how life should be lived. The main influencers in your life are your parents. At a young age, they taught you their way of life, which has been carried along by you, so you tend to live according to what your parents taught you. 
Other influencer's in your life are religion. You live according to your religion, be it Christianity, Muslimism, Hinduism, and whatever other religion you find in this world. Religion is a lifestyle because you will live according to their standards of living, according to their laws and regulations and according to their perceptions of right and wrong. I hope this is making sense for you; I'm just trying to be objective and explain it as best as I can. My next task will be to try to explain the alternative.
This is where you find out what it means to have a lifestyle and how it impacts people. Read this for more information.

Friday, 20 November 2015

Caged, Comfortable, or Charged - Which Life is Yours?


Are you ready for your run to freedom?

Are You at a Threshold Moment?

We all have those times where we can just chug along in our businesses and lives... la la la la. We're good. We're happy. It's status quo at its best.
And then that all changes. We want more. We're ready. Status quo is not good enough.
So, then we have a decision to make.
                                           Source: https://500px.com
I call this a threshold moment or a choice point because it usually involves taking a conscious step - passing over that threshold or choosing a different path from the one you're on.
It can be scary, and what I know is that in order to cross over that threshold, the potential result has to be stronger than the fear of change. And many people can't do it.
The unhappily married woman who complains day after day about her husband not taking any responsibility for the kids or the house, and yet won't let him make a single decision, like what to eat, on one of the rare occasions when she's out for the evening.
The woman who goes to a women's business conference every year and approaches a coach about writing a book. They even brainstorm a kick-ass title. Year after year, she comes back to the booth and says, "I still haven't written that book."
The business owner who says she wants things to be different and even creates a plan for big changes. But when it comes time to implement those changes, she backs down, and rails against the person who partnered with her to make those changes.
The consultant who says she needs to create boundaries with her clients, but it takes her months to put those changes in place. Then, when she does, at the first sign of complaint from her clients (who have gotten used to her loose boundaries), she returns everything back to the way it was.
People may say they want things to be different, that they want to step into their biggest, brightest, highest selves.
But when it comes down to it, change at that level is too big and scary.
It's not that they didn't mean it when they said they want XYZ. They do want XYZ. It's just that what they have to do - who they have to be - in order to get XYZ... they're not willing to do that.
Change isn't easy. It's made up of baby steps and then, at other times, leaps. No matter how many baby steps you take, eventually you have to leap. And that leap is scary. And rarely do you ever get the message, "This is the right time. Everything is absolutely in place. It's the perfect time."
There are always doubts. And you have to leap anyway.
The end goal that lies beyond the threshold? To be that biggest, highest, brightest self.
So, how do you cross over the threshold?
  • Keep the end goal in mind... and FEEL it. What does it look like, smell like, sound like, taste like? What are you going to be able to do as a result?
  • Listen to your Inner Critic Gremlin, and then come up with the data to prove him wrong. "You never finish anything." Your response: "Sure I have... Lookie here... This time, and that time, and this other time." Write the data down to refer to because the Inner Critic Gremlin will poke his head up again and again.
  • Create your Action Plan to get to what lies beyond the threshold. What are all the steps you can take? Write them all down, even the littlest ones. Especially the littlest ones. And then take at least one step every day.
  • Review your end goal and your Action Plan regularly to keep you on track.
  • Build a support system. Share your goals and dreams with others. Ask them to check in on you. Report back to them, no matter if you're happy with your progress or not.
  • Every so often (the time frame may vary depending on your goal), list all that you've accomplished toward your goal. People almost always do more than they think. Write it down so that you can see how awesome you are.
  • Celebrate once you've reached your goal. Don't just move on right to the next one. Breathe, take some time, and feel into your new place across the threshold.
And then get ready for the next one.
Source:http://ezinearticles.com/?Are-You-at-a-Threshold-Moment?&id=9201167

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/9201167A

Thursday, 19 November 2015

How to Learn Faster


What are your learning goals? Are they working out for you?

10 Things Successful People Never Do Again

“Never go back.” What does that mean? From observations of successful people, clinical psychologist and author of Never Go Back: 10 Things You'll Never Do Again (Howard Books, June 2014), Dr. Henry Cloud has discovered certain “awakenings” that people have—in life and in business—that once they have them, they never go back to the old way of doing things. And when that happens, they are never the same. In short, they got it.
                                Source: http://ministry127.com/

“Years ago, a bad business decision of mine led to an interesting discussion with my mentor,” Dr. Cloud says. “I had learned a valuable lesson the hard way, and he reassured me: ‘The good thing is once you learn that lesson, you never go back. You never do it again.’
“I wondered, what are the key awakenings that successful people go through that forever change how they do things, which propel them to succeed in business, relationships, and life? I began to study these awakenings, researching them over the years.”
Although life and business have many lessons to teach us, Dr. Cloud observed 10 “doorways” of learning that high performers go through, never to return again.
Successful people never again…
1. Return to what hasn’t worked. Whether a job, or a broken relationship that was ended for a good reason, we should never go back to the same thing, expecting different results, without something being different.
2. Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not. In everything we do, we have to ask ourselves, “Why am I doing this? Am I suited for it? Does it fit me? Is it sustainable?” If the answer is no to any of these questions, you better have a very good reason to proceed.
3. Try to change another person. When you realize that you cannot force someone into doing something, you give him or her freedom and allow them to experience the consequences. In doing so, you find your own freedom as well.
4. Believe they can please everyone. Once you get that it truly is impossible to please everyone, you begin to live purposefully, trying to please the right people.
5. Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit. Once successful people know they want something that requires a painful, time-limited step, they do not mind the painful step because it gets them to a long-term benefit. Living out this principle is one of the most fundamental differences between successful and unsuccessful people, both personally and professionally.
6. Trust someone or something that appears flawless. It’s natural for us to be drawn to things and people that appear "incredible." We love excellence and should always be looking for it. We should pursue people who are great at what they do, employees who are high performers, dates who are exceptional people, friends who have stellar character, and companies that excel. But when someone or something looks too good to be true, he, she, or it is. The world is imperfect. Period. No one and no thing is without flaw, and if they appear that way, hit pause.
7. Take their eyes off the big picture. We function better emotionally and perform better in our lives when we can see the big picture. For successful people, no one event is ever the whole story. Winners remember that – each and every day.
8. Neglect to do due diligence. No matter how good something looks on the outside, it is only by taking a deeper, diligent, and honest look that we will find out what we truly need to know: the reality that we owe ourselves.
9. Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves. One of the biggest differences between successful people and others is that in love and in life, in relationships and in business, successful people always ask themselves, what part am I playing in this situation? Said another way, they do not see themselves only as victims, even when they are.
10. Forget that their inner life determines their outer success. The good life sometimes has little to do with outside circumstances. We are happy and fulfilled mostly by who we are on the inside. Research validates that. And our internal lives largely contribute to producing many of our external circumstances.
And, the converse is true: people who are still trying to find success in various areas of life can almost always point to one or more of these patterns as a reason they are repeating the same mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes…even the most successful people out there. But, what achievers do better than others is recognize the patterns that are causing those mistakes and never repeat them again. In short, they learn from pain—their own and the pain of others.
A good thing to remember is this: pain is unavoidable, but repeating the same pain twice, when we could choose to learn and do something different, is certainly avoidable. I like to say, “we don’t need new ways to fail….the old ones are working just fine!” Our task, in business and in life, is to observe what they are, and never go back to doing them again.
- See more at: http://www.success.com/article/10-things-successful-people-never-do-again#sthash.uL4R92Ao.dpuf
Source: http://www.success.com/article/10-things-successful-people-never-do-again

Wednesday, 18 November 2015

How To Stay Focused


Have you got your 'focus' together?

3 Ways to Stay Motivated and Keep Moving Forward

Stop rationalizing, stop stewing. Get up out of your chair and start doing.
We too frequently become adept at pointing out our flaws and identifying failures. We need to become equally adept at citing our achievements. We have to be willing to say to ourselves, I’m on the right road. I’m doing OK. I’m succeeding.
                                Source: http://www.stacksandstacks.com/
How do we change our mindset from fault-finding and uninspiring to one that’s positive and motivating? Here are three ways to stay motivated:

1. Chart your progress.

Identify things you are doing now that you weren’t doing one month ago… six months ago… a year ago. What habits have changed?
Doing well once or twice is relatively easy. Continuously moving ahead is tough, in part, because we so easily revert to old habits and former lifestyles. So give yourself regular feedback to monitor your performance and reinforce yourself positively. Don’t wait for an award ceremony, promotion, friend or mentor to show appreciation for your work. Take pride in your own efforts on a daily basis.

2. Keep the end result in sight.

Always see the big picture of the ultimate goal you’re working for and the benefits that come with it.
During World War II, parachutes were being constructed by the thousands. From the workers point of view, the job was tedious and repetitive. It involved crouching over a sewing machine eight to 10 hours a day, stitching endless lengths of colorless fabric. The result was a seamless heap of cloth. But every morning the workers were reminded that each stitch was part of a life-saving operation. As they sewed, they were asked to think that this might be the parachute worn by their husband, brother or son. Although the work was hard and the hours long, the women and men on the assembly line understood their contribution to the larger picture.
The same should be true with your work. Each thing you do benefits someone, something—the lives and well-being of adults and children throughout the world, not just generally, but specifically. These are the visions that drive us through tedious details to the top.

3. Set up a dynamic daily routine.

Getting into a positive routine or groove, instead of a negative rut, will help you become more effective. Why is the subway the most energy efficient means of transportation? Because it runs on a track.
Think of the order in your day, instead of the routine. Order is not sameness, neatness or everything exactly in its place. Order is not taking on more than you can manage, without still being able to do what you really choose. Order is the opposite of complication; it’s simplification. Order is not wasting a lot of time trying to find things. Order is avoiding a lot of recriminations because you didn’t do something you promised. Order is setting an effective agenda with others so neither of you is disappointed. Order is doing in a day what you set out to do. Order frees you up. Get into the swing of a healthy, daily routine and discover how much more control you’ll gain in your life.
- See more at: http://www.success.com/article/3-ways-to-stay-motivated-and-keep-moving-forward?trk_msg=LEPUVG6NAHS4T33SV6TFV42DD4&trk_contact=KFODKVH1KB9UT13TLCQI58HKAG&utm_source=Listrak&utm_medium=Email&utm_term=http%3a%2f%2fwww.success.com%2farticle%2f3-ways-to-stay-motivated-and-keep-moving-forward&utm_campaign=3+Ways+to+Stay+Motivated+and+Keep+Moving+Forward#sthash.d5nduXFq.dpuf
Source:http://www.success.com/article/3-ways-to-stay-motivated-and-keep-moving-forward?trk_msg=LEPUVG6NAHS4T33SV6TFV42DD4&trk_contact=KFODKVH1KB9UT13TLCQI58HKAG&utm_source=Listrak&utm_medium=Email&utm_term=http%3a%2f%2fwww.success.com%2farticle%2f3-ways-to-stay-motivated-and-keep-moving-forward&utm_campaign=3+Ways+to+Stay+Motivated+and+Keep+Moving+Forward

Monday, 16 November 2015

I'm A Dietitian. Here Are The 5 Food Rules I Follow Every Da

I'm a dietitian who loves food. What I've realized after working with many clients over the past few years, is that we tend to make food way too complicated than it needs to be. It’s just food.
I don’t believe in dieting, restricting certain foods, or calorie counting. That’s not healthy mentally or physically. And health is so much more than the food on our plates. It’s also about stress management, getting enough sleep, and exercising appropriately. But I do believe you need cake to balance out the kale, just as much as you need kale to balance out the cake.
I’m a dietitian. And here are the food rules I follow (most of the time!):

1. Include a healthy fat at every meal.

If for some reason a meal doesn’t include some sort of fat — I love nuts,coconut oil or avocado — I’ll be hungry within an hour or two. Not only dofats provide satiation since they empty your stomach the slowest, they’re imperative for good hormonal health.

2. Always eat breakfast.

I can count on one hand the number or times I’ve skipped breakfast. It’s my favorite meal of the day and I’d feel lethargic and cranky if I didn’t eat it. I might sound like a broken record, but breakfast replenishes your glycogen stores after a night of fasting, and suppresses counter regulatory stress hormones that get released when you’ve gone too long without eating.

3. Sit down whenever you eat.

I used to eat standing up, eat while walking to the train, eat while cleaning, eat while doing a trillion other things. And then I’d get done eating and feel like I never ate at all because I was multitasking while eating. This would then lead me to feeling snacky and wanting something else to eat, because I felt like something was lacking in my previous eating experience.
Eating while sitting down is the first step to creating awareness around what you’re eating, making eating a restful experience, and allowing you to actually taste your food.

4. Eat dessert.

Every night I eat dessert to some extent. And it absolutely doesn’t include fruit. Sometimes it’s a few pieces of dark chocolate dipped in peanut butter. Sometimes it’s a slice of banana chocolate chip bread smeared with butter. Sometimes it’s a cupcake or an ice cream cone. But I eat dessert every night.
By de-villainizing dessert and eating it often, I’m satisfied on less and I never have the urge to eat two three or five cupcakes because I know I can eat dessert anytime I want.

5. If I’m hungry, I eat.

You wouldn’t let a baby cry and never give him a bottle, right? So why do we let our stomachs grumble and not feed them? Hunger cues are the only justification you need to eat something. If you’re hungry, you eat. It doesn’t matter what time of day it is, when the last time you ate was, or how much you’ve exercised that day. When you’re hungry, you should eat. It’s as simple as that.
Photo courtesy of the author

Saturday, 14 November 2015

Fair Exchange

In my opinion a great deal of what is wrong with the world we live in can be laid at the door of the approach that some people choose to adopt to exchange.
As Robert Louis Stevenson once said: “Everybody lives by selling something.”
We all survive and try to prosper by transacting goods, services and favours for money or for other goods, services or favours. Each transaction involves an exchange. But how many truly involve fair exchange?
“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living.  The world owes you nothing.  It was here first.”
– Mark Twain
Supply and demand theory
Supply and demand theory dictates that, in a genuinely open market scenario you can, on the whole, expect fair exchange to prevail.
Unfortunately, though, not every transaction or exchange takes place in a completely open and transparent market – and, thanks to some unscrupulous people, unfair exchange is widespread.
Value perceptions
So what is fair exchange?
It’s about there being a healthy balance between give and take. It’s about ensuring that all parties to a transaction feel satisfied that they have received fair value for what they have given.
By this you will gather that fair exchange is not something that can be scientifically computed. Whether an exchange is fair or not depends on the perceptions of the transacting parties.
In transactions conducted by entities such as corporations or governments things become more complex. Not only the transacting parties but all stakeholders in the transaction need to perceive fair value.
Natural abundance vs scarcity
If, like me, you believe that there is a natural order of abundance on earth, then it makes sense that there should be no incentive for anyone to deviate from the principle of fair exchange.
The problem stems from a widespread scarcity mentality.
In other words, the mentailty that reasons: “There is only so much to go around and if I cannot secure at least my share, someone else will get it and I could end up with nothing”.
Self perpetuating
The scarcity mentality leads to a manipulation of the natural order and an artificial imbalance, which becomes self perpetuating as greed (the desire to have more than one really needs) sets in.
The polarised ‘have’ and ‘have not’ society that results spawns criminal elements that engage in corrupt dealings and even the complete antithesis of ‘fair exchange’ – outright theft.
A simple solution
A simple (yet immensely challenging) solution to the many problems we experience on earth is for all of us to adopt an abundance mentality and promote the concept of fair exchange.
When you have an abundance mentality, you start to attract everything you need. You give freely in the knowledge that what goes out comes back. You start to live a life characterised by fair exchange, others become influenced to respond accordingly and the world becomes a better place!
Relevance to life coaching
At New Insights we teach the principle of fair exchange to our trainee coaches, primarily for three reasons:
– We want them to appreciate the intrinsic power of this concept and to promote fair exchange in all their dealings with their clients.
– We want them to understand that they should never undervalue themselves or the service that they offer.
– We know that when two parties are in a win-win relationship, they will go to great lengths to protect, extend and expand that relationship – so it’s good for them, good for business and good for society.
At the heart of it
At the heart of the principle of fair exchange is a principle that all the great teachers on this planet have attempted to impart to us.
Treat others the way you would like them to treat you!
Article by Bill Burridge.